Dear Andre, I hope this email finds you well

«Dear Andre, I hope this email finds you well. Please come to the office on Wednesday at 10 am for a quick meeting.

Kind Regards

Jane Doe»

On May 11 2016 exactly one year ago (at the time I wrote this post) I drove into the terrible morning traffic. After almost two hours of honking horns hell I walked into a small conference room located on a second floor. It was a sunny day outside. The brightness of the day casting a shadow over an evil Elmer Fudd looking Human Resources manager.

«Good to see you, come on in, have a sit. Would you like something to drink or some mixed nuts?»-He said, pushing a little bowl towards me.

«No thank you.»-I replied, as I saw something come out of his mouth and land in the bowl.

He had a note pad with a pen, a white sheet of paper next to it and there was a conferencing phone on the table.

«Did Jane tell you what the meeting is about?»-He asked as he picked up the phone and dialed Jane’s number.

I am not sure what made me more nauseous, the smirk on his face or the stench of his breath.

«No, I have no idea.»-Of course I knew what the meeting was about and I suspected what the paper next to his note pad was. In fact I had been hoping for it for about a year.

«Hello guys» -The female voice on the other side of the line said. «I hope you’re doing great, so let’s get down to it. Andre, we appreciate all the work you’ve done for the company, specially in the past three years. Elmer, would you please hand him the letter I sent you. Take your time to read it and then we can discuss it.»

Not trying to hide a fake smile, he handed me the sheet of paper that was sitting next to his note pad.

Dear Andre, […]Effective May 15, 2016 your services will no longer be required. […]

-«OK, I’ve read it.» -I said. That was the best news I’ve had in a long time.

-«We are letting you go with a full compensation package and you keep your company stocks.» -Said Jane.

For over two years I’d felt trapped in a dead end job, frustrated and unhappy, running the rat race backwards. The multinational corporate world just wasn’t for me. But I could not afford to quit because I was up to my neck in credit card debt.

-«Well, thank you.» -I said trying to hide the excitement while signing the termination letter.

A world of possibilities had just opened up.


Back at my parents’ house

After living in my yellow ’72 VW Beetle for a little over a week, I moved back into my parent’s house temporarily. At that time my dad had some heavy drinking problems and my mom was dealing with a an illness called Lupus.

Lupus is a terminal illness that worsens when the patient is under stress, so his drinking made it worse. It was a vicious circle, he was stressed because of her illness and she was stressed because of his drinking. Neither knew how to communicate it with assertiveness.

I’m not justifying anyone’s actions, but this is how I see it now with a calmer heart and from a more neutral stand point.

The stay at my parent’s was supposed to last a couple of months; time enough to save some rent and credit card money.

What was supposed to be a couple of months turned into nine and things did not improve at my parent’s. His drinking worsened, she was wasn’t getting any better. The credit card companies were harassing me on a daily basis, the pressure was more than I could handle.

Me and my dad would be fighting all the time, which of course was not good for my mom. so instead of being part of the solution I was being part of the problem. Back then, my younger brother was also living with my parents, and we got into each other’s nerves all the time also.

It felt like I couldn’t get a break! But it had it had its good moments also. I had the opportunity to spend more time with my mom before she passed away. We’d have lunch and converse, I’d bring my daughter over the days that I had her and she’d get to know her grandma and they played on the swing set whenever my mom was feeling good enough to leave her bed.

I finally saved enough to rent a small apartment and moved out again.

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Separate Your ‘Who’ from Your ‘Do’

I’ve made mistakes in my life, and I’m sure I’ll make mistakes in the future, but I still like myself.

The fact is, I don’t do everything right all the time, but that doesn’t affect who I am. I know I’m loved and I’m still a good person. That’s because I’ve learned to separate my ‘who,’ new creature in Christ, from my ‘do.’

When you realize that what you ‘do’ doesn’t determine ‘who’ you are, you can experience a new level of freedom from shame.

When you know that God likes you, you can start to really like yourself. When you start to like yourself, other people begin to like you too. Liking yourself doesn’t mean you’re full of pride; it simply means you accept yourself as the person God created you to be.

We all need changes in our behavior, but accepting ourselves as God’s creation is vital to our progress in becoming an emotionally healthy person. If we can master this one thing, liking ourselves, it will work wonders in helping us to overcome a shame-based nature.

Prayer Starter: Holy Spirit, help me to separate my ‘do’ from my ‘who’. I can like myself and experience freedom from shame because You are constantly working in my life.

2 Corinthians 5:17

17 When anyone is in Christ, it is a whole new world.[a] The old things are gone; suddenly, everything is new!

Joyce Meyer – Promises for your everyday life


Throwing Fear Outdoors

I want to talk to you about a four-letter word: FEAR!

Many of us can probably remember when we were kids, if we said a bad word, our mama threatened to wash our mouth out with soap. Well, if «fear» is a dirty, four-letter word, then faith in God’s love is the soap!

I’m not talking about wimpy faith. I’m talking about a powerful faith in God’s unconditional, unlimited, unwavering, perfect love for us.

First John 4:18 teaches that understanding God’s love for us will deliver us from our fears. Now this doesn’t mean we won’t ever feel fear, but faith in God and His love will enable us to ‘do it afraid’ if we have to.

God wants you to know that He is with you. He will lead and guide you, so you can put your confidence and faith in Him!

Remember, His love is perfect, even when we aren’t. He isn’t going to love us any more or less because of our mistakes. Isn’t it good to know that God loves you right where you are? Doesn’t that thought just kind of boost your faith and take your fear down a notch?

You and I are going to feel afraid now and then. When we do, we can get our focus back on God and know that He will lead us through any situation we face.
It’s the perfect love of God, not perfect us, that casts out fear every single time

Prayer Starter

God, only Your love can cast out my fear, so I put my faith in You. I know that Your presence is with me and that You will lead me through any fearful situation I face. I receive Your love.

1 John 4:18

18There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

Joyce Meyer – Promises for your everyday life

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The Importance of Finishing

Several years ago I read a verse that caused me to weep before the Lord. In John 17:4, Jesus says, «I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.» This is saying that following God means finishing what He’s called us to do.

Ever since reading that verse, it’s become very important to me that I not just do what God has called me to do, but that I finish what He’s called me to do.

There are a lot of people who step out and begin a journey with God, but I don’t think there are nearly as many who finish it.

The apostle Paul said, ‘…If only I may finish my course with joy…’ (Acts 20:24).
I’m determined to finish God’s call for me and enjoy every minute of it! That’s what I want for you, too, to enjoy every single day of your life and finish what God’s called you to do.

But most of this is up to us. It’s not all up to God. He has done His part and given us everything we need in Christ. It’s up to us to keep learning, growing, and letting the Spirit of God work in us. Take time to consider the things that God has called you to do and ask yourself, «What am I doing today to finish strong what God has set before me?»

God has great plans for you. Receive them by faith and go after them with all your heart. Today, I want you to make a commitment to finish strong. It’s a commitment I know God will honor.

Prayer Starter

God, like Jesus, I want to be able to say that I have completed the work You have for me. Thank You for working in me to give me the power and the desire to live for Your pleasure and finish my course with joy!

John 17:4

4I have brought you glory on earth by finishing the work you gave me to do.

Joyce Meyer – Promises for your everyday life

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